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Post by Fozzie Bear on Nov 24, 2015 8:51:03 GMT -5
My roommate got back with her longtime off-again-on-again girlfriend last week, and they've been fighting like crazy. Last night it hit a peak with them screaming at each other, physical contact of some kind, and banging and punching the walls and doors. It woke me and my girlfriend up, and my girlfriend had to walk to their room to tell them to calm down. Hopefully they broke up.
god it's just one thing after another. the gf finally got her new job and starting that and it's going great. they already are ready to give her a raise after 60 days. over the last two days her son has been coughing (2.5 yrs old). he has a fever now and she has to stay home with him today as i'm out of days off and already stayed home a day 2 weeks ago to watch him when i was out of days. she's home with him today and taking him to the Dr. she doesn't get health insurance until after 60 days either. she also applied for state help like idk around 2 months ago and still no word on that. she called them this morning but just automated machine and they're probably not open for another half hour anyways. so at this point she's going the Dr with no health insurance. she's not sure if they will give her the prescription (if he needs one), if they see that she doesn't have active health care. obviously she doesn't want to end up paying like $500 for a Dr visit, as she really doesn't have the money right now. hoping that if she gets a prescription for him that i can use my HSA money on him. i really never go to the Dr and have 8 grand just sitting in there doing nothing. feeling pretty helpless at work this morning
They may just give him amoxicillin. Which is on the $4 list at Kroger and free at Publix. Call your HSA first. You don't want to get into trouble using it for someone else. See if you can use it to pay for the MD visit as well while you have them on the phone.
god it's just one thing after another. the gf finally got her new job and starting that and it's going great. they already are ready to give her a raise after 60 days. over the last two days her son has been coughing (2.5 yrs old). he has a fever now and she has to stay home with him today as i'm out of days off and already stayed home a day 2 weeks ago to watch him when i was out of days. she's home with him today and taking him to the Dr. she doesn't get health insurance until after 60 days either. she also applied for state help like idk around 2 months ago and still no word on that. she called them this morning but just automated machine and they're probably not open for another half hour anyways. so at this point she's going the Dr with no health insurance. she's not sure if they will give her the prescription (if he needs one), if they see that she doesn't have active health care. obviously she doesn't want to end up paying like $500 for a Dr visit, as she really doesn't have the money right now. hoping that if she gets a prescription for him that i can use my HSA money on him. i really never go to the Dr and have 8 grand just sitting in there doing nothing. feeling pretty helpless at work this morning
They may just give him amoxicillin. Which is on the $4 list at Kroger and free at Publix. Call your HSA first. You don't want to get into trouble using it for someone else. See if you can use it to pay for the MD visit as well while you have them on the phone.
yea doing some quick research i can only use it on dependents, which they are not. probably just put it on the credit card to get us over the hump. just hoping they don't charge an arm and a leg to see him for 10 min and give him amaxicillon
edit: he's not really coughing today and is playing with toys, eating, and watching spongebob. she's considering not even taking him to the hospital if she can just take care of him herself
They may just give him amoxicillin. Which is on the $4 list at Kroger and free at Publix. Call your HSA first. You don't want to get into trouble using it for someone else. See if you can use it to pay for the MD visit as well while you have them on the phone.
yea doing some quick research i can only use it on dependents, which they are not. probably just put it on the credit card to get us over the hump. just hoping they don't charge an arm and a leg to see him for 10 min and give him amaxicillon
edit: he's not really coughing today and is playing with toys, eating, and watching spongebob. she's considering not even taking him to the hospital if she can just take care of him herself
Tylenol and Motrin for the fever. Can alternate every 3 hours. Steam vaporizer and Zarbee's Naturals Baby Cough Syrup for the cough. I doubt the Doctor would do much more. They hate giving Antibiotics these days. Just monitor and if it gets worse get him to the Doctor.
yea doing some quick research i can only use it on dependents, which they are not. probably just put it on the credit card to get us over the hump. just hoping they don't charge an arm and a leg to see him for 10 min and give him amaxicillon
edit: he's not really coughing today and is playing with toys, eating, and watching spongebob. she's considering not even taking him to the hospital if she can just take care of him herself
Tylenol and Motrin for the fever. Can alternate every 3 hours. Steam vaporizer and Zarbee's Naturals Baby Cough Syrup for the cough. I doubt the Doctor would do much more. They hate giving Antibiotics these days. Just monitor and if it gets worse get him to the Doctor.
yea i believe those are the two we have going right now. don't have a steam vaporizer, had him sit in the bathroom with the hot shower going to help clear him a little. sounds like the cough is a lot less today. going to re-take his temp in a couple hours here and if it's lower she's going to take him to daycare and go to work. yea i just don't think a doctor trip is going to help much more than we already are. thanks for the advice!
They may just give him amoxicillin. Which is on the $4 list at Kroger and free at Publix. Call your HSA first. You don't want to get into trouble using it for someone else. See if you can use it to pay for the MD visit as well while you have them on the phone.
yea doing some quick research i can only use it on dependents, which they are not. probably just put it on the credit card to get us over the hump. just hoping they don't charge an arm and a leg to see him for 10 min and give him amaxicillon
edit: he's not really coughing today and is playing with toys, eating, and watching spongebob. she's considering not even taking him to the hospital if she can just take care of him herself
My junkie brother, who couldn't get his shit together enough to make it to his dad's funeral, told my oldest sister he's not talking to any of us, because we divided everything up and left him nothing. What the actual fuck? Said after all he went through he deserved something. We took nothing really, clothing, no value bullshit because we just wanted something as a reminder. He thinks the GTO that Ike sold ages ago we sold and idk who he thinks took the money, but that we didn't give him his cut.
My mom is still alive, if there was anything it's hers. It's not ours, we don't deserve anything, Ike is fucking gone. My brother was supposed to go, in my car, but was too fucked up to make the trip and face anyone. But fuck Ike, he just wants material shit worth value. Fucking disgusting.
My junkie brother, who couldn't get his shit together enough to make it to his dad's funeral, told my oldest sister he's not talking to any of us, because we divided everything up and left him nothing. What the actual fuck? Said after all he went through he deserved something. We took nothing really, clothing, no value bullshit because we just wanted something as a reminder. He thinks the GTO that Ike sold ages ago we sold and idk who he thinks took the money, but that we didn't give him his cut.
My mom is still alive, if there was anything it's hers. It's not ours, we don't deserve anything, Ike is fucking gone. My brother was supposed to go, in my car, but was too fucked up to make the trip and face anyone. But fuck Ike, he just wants material shit worth value. Fucking disgusting.
Grr. I'm sorry you are dealing with this, along with everything else
yea doing some quick research i can only use it on dependents, which they are not. probably just put it on the credit card to get us over the hump. just hoping they don't charge an arm and a leg to see him for 10 min and give him amaxicillon
edit: he's not really coughing today and is playing with toys, eating, and watching spongebob. she's considering not even taking him to the hospital if she can just take care of him herself
good news in that edit. stay healthy out there.
well he was good and bad yesterday, by last night we took him to the minute clinic, no flu, throat looked fine, ears were great, just a little rhaspy in one of his lungs. went to urgent care and poor guy has a little pneumonia in one of his lungs. got a nebulizer and amoxicilon for him. he's with my mom today and she is taking care of him while us two have to work. i had a neb as a kid for a bit so she has used one before and knows what she's going. i'm glad we went to urgent care and the doc didn't really do any tests just listened to his lungs and said yea, this is what i think. so he's diagnosed and getting what he needs now. just sucks to go to minute clinic for $92 and they tell you "well, we can't do anything". but oh well, glad he's gonna hopefully be all ready for tomorrow!
well he was good and bad yesterday, by last night we took him to the minute clinic, no flu, throat looked fine, ears were great, just a little rhaspy in one of his lungs. went to urgent care and poor guy has a little pneumonia in one of his lungs. got a nebulizer and amoxicilon for him. he's with my mom today and she is taking care of him while us two have to work. i had a neb as a kid for a bit so she has used one before and knows what she's going. i'm glad we went to urgent care and the doc didn't really do any tests just listened to his lungs and said yea, this is what i think. so he's diagnosed and getting what he needs now. just sucks to go to minute clinic for $92 and they tell you "well, we can't do anything". but oh well, glad he's gonna hopefully be all ready for tomorrow!
Oh that's rough dude. Pneumonia in those tiny little lungs isn't fun. Glad y'all got some help and everyone should be healthy for Turkey Day.
well he was good and bad yesterday, by last night we took him to the minute clinic, no flu, throat looked fine, ears were great, just a little rhaspy in one of his lungs. went to urgent care and poor guy has a little pneumonia in one of his lungs. got a nebulizer and amoxicilon for him. he's with my mom today and she is taking care of him while us two have to work. i had a neb as a kid for a bit so she has used one before and knows what she's going. i'm glad we went to urgent care and the doc didn't really do any tests just listened to his lungs and said yea, this is what i think. so he's diagnosed and getting what he needs now. just sucks to go to minute clinic for $92 and they tell you "well, we can't do anything". but oh well, glad he's gonna hopefully be all ready for tomorrow!
Oh that's rough dude. Pneumonia in those tiny little lungs isn't fun. Glad y'all got some help and everyone should be healthy for Turkey Day.
yea luckily they made it seem like it's a "small" spot and nothing taking over his lungs or anything
Oh that's rough dude. Pneumonia in those tiny little lungs isn't fun. Glad y'all got some help and everyone should be healthy for Turkey Day.
yea luckily they made it seem like it's a "small" spot and nothing taking over his lungs or anything
Pneumonia sucks. Kyle rarely gets sick. He got really sick a couple years ago, and they just said it was the flu or whatever. He was still sick like a week later, took him back and he had walking pneumonia. It was scary. Hope your little dude gets better quickly.
yea luckily they made it seem like it's a "small" spot and nothing taking over his lungs or anything
Pneumonia sucks. Kyle rarely gets sick. He got really sick a couple years ago, and they just said it was the flu or whatever. He was still sick like a week later, took him back and he had walking pneumonia. It was scary. Hope your little dude gets better quickly.
hoping a couple nebulizar sessions today starts to kick him back into gear
Pneumonia sucks. Kyle rarely gets sick. He got really sick a couple years ago, and they just said it was the flu or whatever. He was still sick like a week later, took him back and he had walking pneumonia. It was scary. Hope your little dude gets better quickly.
hoping a couple nebulizar sessions today starts to kick him back into gear
Guilty confession, I love my nebulizer time. I have one for my asthma, and although I HATE having asthma attacks and having them so bad I have to use it, I like that I can sneak off, do my session and everyone leaves me alone to do it. And then I am a bouncing ball of crazy steroid energy and make everyone crazy.
Thanksgiving has always been my least favorite holiday. I don't like the food at all, I don't care for football, and conversations with my cousins and stuff are just small talk, which I don't find very fulfilling. This year my brother and sister are spending Turkey Day with their significant others' families, and my mom and her bf have decided to just stay home. My cousin is hosting it this year, and the only family I'm close with that will be there will be my grandparents and my aunt. I went out to dinner with my family (siblings/mom/grandparents/aunt) last week for my and my mother's birthdays, and we're having a big family dinner next week at my grandparents' house (including the cousins I'd be seeing today). So when I found out this morning that my mom wasn't going, I kinda felt better about wanting to skip Thanksgiving this year. I had never RSVP'd to my cousin anyway, so I'd be showing up somewhat unexpected and empty-handed.
Well my grandma just called to see if I was still coming, and when I told her I didn't think so she said she was disappointed. Nothing hits ya like a grandmother's disappointment. So now I feel guilty about staying home but I also don't want to drive an hour and a half to be hungry and make small talk. Especially since I'll be seeing everyone next week anyway. I do enjoy my family's company and we get along well, but three weeks in a row is just...eh. More than I care for.
But honestly I don't have shit to do at home anyway, so I'll just be on Facebook seeing pictures of everyone else's Thanksgivings. Blah.
Edit: And now she just posted on Facebook saying that next weekend's dinner is canceled. Looks like I'm on my way to my cousin's house.
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Okay, this might be a long one. This is more about me getting things out there in case anyone has nuggets of wisdom than anything else.
Background:
My family was very warm and close-knit growing up. Christmases usually consisted of grandparents, great-grandparents, great-aunts and -uncles, aunts and uncles, cousins, and my parents and siblings. They were good times. Very fuzzy, happy memories. Over the past eight or so years, a fuckton has changed. My great-aunt Audrey essentially stole a decent amount of money from my Nan (Pop-Pop's mother), became estranged from the family, and then died in a head-on collision. Her two sons are no longer in contact with us. My Nan then died two years later. When my Pop-Pop retired around the same time, he gave his successful home remodeling business to his son-in-law, my Uncle Jack (former husband of my Aunt Amanda). Uncle Jack then turned out to be a complete piece of shit, running the business (and my Pop-Pop's name) into the ground by screwing over customers - and cheating on and disappearing from my Aunt Amanda in the process. My grandparents' other son-in-law (my stepdad), also developed a painkiller addiction, which he died from two and half years ago. So if we count my Grandma and Pop-Pop as a single unit, they had lost two siblings, a parent, and two sons as of the beginning of this year.
And then things started to fall apart on my Grandma's side. Things between her and her brother have been deteriorating over the past couple years, to the point where he no longer speaks to her. Their mother (my great-grandmother), died this February at the ripe old age of 98. This June, their sister (my great-aunt Pat) unexpectedly died of kidney failure. She lived in California along with her two children and two grandchildren. So my Grandma has lost both her mother and her sister (whom she was very close with) this year.
Now that you're up to speed:
So the family has changed a lot. Now what I consider "the family" is really just my siblings and I, my mom, aunt Amanda, and grandparents. I think my siblings and I have adapted and adjusted well, all things considered. My aunt (now 50 and divorced since her husband was a POS) is pretty lonely, but this has pushed her towards being closer to closer with all of us, so while I may worry about her loneliness sometimes, her relationships in regards to the family dynamic have been strengthened.
My mom, on the other hand, is not as warm a person. She generally has a "bite me" attitude, and she does what she wants. She can be incredibly headstrong, and often the only times I can get her to consider other people's points of view is when I can demonstrate how her stubbornness negatively affects her children. Us children are more or less the only things she seems to really care about. She has built up many walls and defenses since my stepdad's addiction and death, and they are hard to break down sometimes. She has a tendency to be controlling and domineering, and whether she knows it or not, these traits are taking a toll on her familial relationships. This is compounded by the fact that she generally likes to stay home and do nothing. She doesn't have hobbies or much of a social life, so you think she'd be happy to do family stuff when she gets the chance, but she's quite comfortable often saying "Nah, I don't want to do that" and just staying home. Honestly she's getting curmudgeony, and she doesn't give a fuck what anyone thinks about it.
This is at odds with my grandmother, who - since her sister and mother's deaths - has been much more desirous of getting together to reform and strengthen what family relationships are left. Her ties with the Californians have been cut off due to her sister's death, and her mother dying makes her feel like the family is completely disintegrating. Thanksgiving this year was at the house of her brother's daughter (the brother who no longer speaks to her), so it was important to her that we be there since her brother's daughters are grown and starting families of their own, so she doesn't (and we don't) get to see them much.
Now that you're even more up to speed:
I just got off the phone with my Grandma a few minutes ago (well, about 45 minutes ago since this has taken a while to type out), and she is very depressed. She canceled the family dinner planned for next weekend because our cousins couldn't make it, and she feels like people (mostly meaning my mom) don't care about the family as much as she does, so why bother? She explained that she often feels like my mom only does what she wants to do without taking other people into consideration, which for the most part is true. She said that she has had her feelings hurt by my mom many times. My Grandma is one of the most emotionally open people I've ever known, but she even said that she's reticent to bring things up to my mom because my mom gets so defensive and unwilling to truly listen. I have never known my grandma to avoid difficult conversations, so I know this is big for her.
While I do think that the importance of family is amplified in my Grandma's eyes due to her recent losses (and I told her as such), my mom is not making things easier for her. And frankly, I don't know how to bring things up to my mom either. I always have to pick and choose what things I want to confront her about simply because I want to enjoy her company. But while I know that it's not my place or responsibility to manage her relationships with other people in the family, I am cognizant of the fact that I'm probably the best at getting through to her because I don't bullshit around and am unafraid to pin her to the wall when she's being ridiculous or hurtful (that sounds aggressive but trust that I know how to do it compassionately). Frankly, she needs therapy. I can too easily envision years of her relationships with her family eroding, and that scares me. For all her flaws, I love my mom to death. Her flaws just make it hard. And if we were all to bring this up to her, I'm sure she'd say something to the effect of "Sorry I'm so terrible and make things harder on you guys. I get it - I suck". Because she's great at passive-aggression and guilt trips. And I know that she's doing a lot better mentally now than in the year after my stepdad died (that fucked her up big), and I don't want to set her back because she's prone to depression as well.
My Grandma said tonight that she's in more pain that she has been in a while, and I feel for her. An angel on Earth, that woman is, and she deserves all the happiness in the world. I'm closer to her than I am anyone else, and I just feel so helpless.
Anywho, I'm glad I went to Thanksgiving today. As much as I don't care for it, me being there was more important to my Grandma than not being there was to me. So I did the right thing, and that feels good. Now I just gotta try to convince my mom that things like that can make her feel good, too.
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For those other holiday-grrrr folks out there, I feel your pain. Holidays with my family have become increasingly insufferable, mainly due to my younger brother. Everything is a fucking travesty with him. Today was probably the worst, most overly dramatic yet.
I feel bad because I love my folks and my other brothers, and I know they want to spend time with my daughters, but it's getting to the point where I can't be at my parents' house for than a day without losing my mind.
Happy turkey day to everyone out there, and count yourselves lucky if you don't have fucked up relatives.
Yesterday my eldest son went to take a shower and when he got out I noticed bruises down his arm, stomach, and hip. They were all on one side of his body. So I was like, "What the hell happened?" He said that the neighbor, the child he plays with 90% of the time, has told them that to remain in their club house, he has to fight. I asked he wanted to fight and he said, "No, but I want to stay in the fort." I asked if there was other ways to stay and he said that he could clean up his "room" in the fort, instead.
Now this child, our next door neighbor, does not come from a stable home. His mom is raising 3 kids all alone, she works full time, and this son has been kicked out of school and is now homeschooled (but not really). I feel for this kid. You can hear his mother scream at him from inside her house. He has issues but I haven't seen many problems out of him. There have been a few times when they have been playing rough outside and if it gets too intense I'll tell them to knock it off. I've heard him tell the boys sexual myths, but my kids correct him and we talk about it. So, where to go from here. I'd like to pull him aside and tell him that if he hits one of my children again, they will no longer be allowed to play with him. That might cause him to resort to psychological bullying or teasing. I realize I need to focus on opening their social circle up so they have more options. At the same time this kid is right next door and he is both of their "best friend"s. Input?
Last night while playing soccer, some guy on the opposing team was trying to clear the ball out of his zone. The ball took a line drive to my face, right around my left eye. It hit me so hard that it knocked the glasses off my head and left a few scratches.
I ended up playing the last couple minutes of the game, so it didn't bother me much then. This morning though, woke up with a decent headache. Maybe it's from sinuses, maybe it's from soccer ball.
Post by itrainmonkeys on Dec 2, 2015 10:14:18 GMT -5
Just very stressed lately about a lot of things in my life. Nothing major or as bad as others are going through but a lot of things pile up and I am stressed/tired and not working as hard as I should be in a lot of areas. Totally unmotivated and feeling crappy. I need a week of rest.
Just very stressed lately about a lot of things in my life. Nothing major or as bad as others are going through but a lot of things pile up and I am stressed/tired and not working as hard as I should be in a lot of areas. Totally unmotivated and feeling crappy. I need a week of rest.
I could've written the same thing myself. I feel all of this at the moment.
I hope you are able to rest in one way or another, even if it's short mental rest breaks. I've been thinking about picking up meditation. My old boss did it, and said it's like sharpening a sword, it takes time, but the tool (your brain) works much better afterwards. Doesn't that sound nice?
Yesterday my eldest son went to take a shower and when he got out I noticed bruises down his arm, stomach, and hip. They were all on one side of his body. So I was like, "What the hell happened?" He said that the neighbor, the child he plays with 90% of the time, has told them that to remain in their club house, he has to fight. I asked he wanted to fight and he said, "No, but I want to stay in the fort." I asked if there was other ways to stay and he said that he could clean up his "room" in the fort, instead.
Now this child, our next door neighbor, does not come from a stable home. His mom is raising 3 kids all alone, she works full time, and this son has been kicked out of school and is now homeschooled (but not really). I feel for this kid. You can hear his mother scream at him from inside her house. He has issues but I haven't seen many problems out of him. There have been a few times when they have been playing rough outside and if it gets too intense I'll tell them to knock it off. I've heard him tell the boys sexual myths, but my kids correct him and we talk about it. So, where to go from here. I'd like to pull him aside and tell him that if he hits one of my children again, they will no longer be allowed to play with him. That might cause him to resort to psychological bullying or teasing. I realize I need to focus on opening their social circle up so they have more options. At the same time this kid is right next door and he is both of their "best friend"s. Input?
My heart sank when I read this. I used to live next door to a kid like that and it was so hard to know what to do. He had many issues his mom ignored because she didn't want him to be labeled, which made everything worse. He hurt my kids every time they played and would completely ignore me when I tried to talk to him about it. It got to the point where I would keep my kids inside to avoid him. His mom and I were pretty close but I couldn't just say "hey your kid sucks." I watched her break down so many times because he was so impossible. She was truly blind to how much more harm she caused by not getting him help and by yelling at him so much. They ended up moving, so I don't really have any advice for you. But I feel for you. Seeing your babies be forgiving to someone who doesn't deserve it can break your heart. I guess I would just encourage your boys to stand up for themselves and come to you instead of fighting? I'm willing to bet the kid will get tired of playing alone and invite them back into the fort without fighting. Try telling them that. Hugs, mama. Wish we had a handbook for this shit.
Just very stressed lately about a lot of things in my life. Nothing major or as bad as others are going through but a lot of things pile up and I am stressed/tired and not working as hard as I should be in a lot of areas. Totally unmotivated and feeling crappy. I need a week of rest.
I could've written the same thing myself. I feel all of this at the moment.
I hope you are able to rest in one way or another, even if it's short mental rest breaks. I've been thinking about picking up meditation. My old boss did it, and said it's like sharpening a sword, it takes time, but the tool (your brain) works much better afterwards. Doesn't that sound nice?
I think it says a lot that I've seen both of you be nothing but positive and kind despite the way you're feeling. I hope the funk passes soon. <3
Just very stressed lately about a lot of things in my life. Nothing major or as bad as others are going through but a lot of things pile up and I am stressed/tired and not working as hard as I should be in a lot of areas. Totally unmotivated and feeling crappy. I need a week of rest.
I could've written the same thing myself. I feel all of this at the moment.
I hope you are able to rest in one way or another, even if it's short mental rest breaks. I've been thinking about picking up meditation. My old boss did it, and said it's like sharpening a sword, it takes time, but the tool (your brain) works much better afterwards. Doesn't that sound nice?
Yes yes yes do it do it do it. Everyone should do this every day.
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I could've written the same thing myself. I feel all of this at the moment.
I hope you are able to rest in one way or another, even if it's short mental rest breaks. I've been thinking about picking up meditation. My old boss did it, and said it's like sharpening a sword, it takes time, but the tool (your brain) works much better afterwards. Doesn't that sound nice?
Yes yes yes do it do it do it. Everyone should do this every day.
This FAQ probably has good resources, but currently my work filter has decided to block it, so I can't say for sure.
Meditation is one of those things that is so simple it can be difficult to do. Meditation is, in essence, "just sitting" in its purest form. Comfortably sit, and direct your attention to your breath. By that, I mean focus on a physical sensation - I focus on the air passing over my nostrils, others focus on the diaphragm rising and falling; just do what feels right to you. There's somewhat of a misconception that meditation involves not thinking; I don't really agree with this. While periods of no-thought will come more easily the more you meditate, humans are still thinking creatures and thoughts will happen. The trick is to not let your thoughts control you. It is in this way that meditation is like training the mind. When your mind inevitably wanders, just gently return your focus to your breath. A lot of people scold themselves when they think during meditation because they think they're not "doing it right", but I'm much more process-oriented and just see thoughts as reminders to refocus on the breath. This is how I think meditation is really helfpul - as it becomes more a part of your daily living you learn not to hold onto unpleasant thoughts or emotions for longer than necessary. Things may start to change for you when you're no longer filtering the world through your beliefs...
After a period of time during meditation your thoughts might drop away completely for a bit and you excitedly realize "HOLY SHIT I'M DOING IT!", but then you realize that this also is a thought, so in that way meditation can be frustrating. Trying to hold onto it only pushes it away. It is truly a process of just letting go. Thoughts come and go, emotions come and go, physical sensations both unpleasant and unpleasant come and go, etc. Meditation is a way of re-discovering the space in which these phenomena are experienced...but I'm getting ahead of myself. Meditation is a major passion of mine so I could yabber on about it for hours.
Just sit; just breathe. You'll be fine. =)
I recommend starting out with 10-15 minutes to start so you don't get discouraged, but for me it's only at about the 15-20 minute mark that my mind really settles down and I can just simply exist for a while. Your mileage may vary. Just do what feels comfortable for you.
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Just very stressed lately about a lot of things in my life. Nothing major or as bad as others are going through but a lot of things pile up and I am stressed/tired and not working as hard as I should be in a lot of areas. Totally unmotivated and feeling crappy. I need a week of rest.
I could've written the same thing myself. I feel all of this at the moment.
I hope you are able to rest in one way or another, even if it's short mental rest breaks. I've been thinking about picking up meditation. My old boss did it, and said it's like sharpening a sword, it takes time, but the tool (your brain) works much better afterwards. Doesn't that sound nice?
I used to meditate a lot when I attended Quaker services but unfortunately when I stopped attending I got out of the habit. I really need to pick it back up because it is really relaxing.