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ya id say talk to your parents. like someone else said, findo out why they dont want you to go again and find out what you can do to change thier minds. lying is no good.
but no matter how angry, concerned, or threatening a parent is there is nothing they can do to locate anyone at roo. and thats what they will tell you. even if you purchased a ticket you could walk around all day every day and not find your child. but the authorities/event seucrity will be of no help at all. they would tell you that there is nothing they can do and they will likely return on monday evening and to wait til then.
plus if your sisters are your ride i doubt they would put their butts on the line doing something like that against your parents wishes. id try the route of reasoining with them. keep it honest. you dont want you parents ruining your entire summer because you were dishonest.
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Post by HelloGoodbye on Jan 31, 2007 15:32:38 GMT -5
thanks everyone. I think I'll try all of your suggestions.
My parents really aren't strict. For the most part they understand that I'm a teenager and they know that I'll be experimenting with all sorts of stuff ... whether I'm here or a few states away.
They just keep saying " we were so worried about you last year ". I think they don't realize that it was safer then most concerts I've been too. I mean everyone paid 200 bucks for a ticket, no one is gonna pay that much and then go start problems .. everyone just wants to have a good time.
Another thing my parents also WERE holding against us was the fact that the only way we could get there was their van. But my sister just bought a new car!
But anways, I'm a pretty good kid for the most part. I mean, my parents trust me. And so far my grades have all been good, so they can't hold that against me. I'm just sticking on their good side ( bascially sucking up to them ) for the rest of the year.
I will be at Bonnaroo this year. I will. But I would just feel better and not feel so burdened if I just had their permission.
I'm gonna try and find some articles about bonnaroo and the safety there. And then i'll talk to them. I'll try and keep my cool. I let everyone know how it goes.
Post by cluelessmom on Jan 31, 2007 15:37:44 GMT -5
lol ;D I didn't expect this to turn into what a mom in a hypothetical situation would do. It was my intention to let the OP know that going without permission is a bad idea, & the consequences may be more that what she bargained for.
You're right, we've never been to Roo. I have been in very large crowds before, where people were located when necessary. This wouldn't be like 2 adults trying to locate each other. I agree that would be impossible. If it was a minor runaway, it would be cops using walkie talkies to communicate with each other & passing out flyers with the child's picture on them. In most cases, they would have crossed their state line making it a federal issue as well. They wouldn't need to check anyone's ID. They would just be looking for the person in the picture. Eventually, someone at the festival would have seen them. A missing minor is taken very seriously.
I'm not quite sure how this became about me, & I don't ever expect to be in the hypothetical situation, so it's a moot point as far as I'm concerned. I'll pass the thread back to the OP now.
BTW, I'd be shocked if there was always parents on the other side of the fence looking for their kids. I'd like to think there wouldn't be many who would go without permission.
frankthemute said:
P.S. to the mom : You sound like a cool mom goin to Roo with your kid, but I hope it isnt outta distrust but rather U wanna have a fun time with your kid which Im sure it is. But, you will see in June, Ud never find your kid there lol. We need more parents at Roo!!!! You wouldnt believe how cool they can be sometimes when put in the proper environment. Even tho my mom is a church goin, god fearing conservative, I love her and he would love Roo.
We're all going to Roo, because we think family vacations should involve the whole family. It's not a trust at all. We like to go places he'll enjoy, because we figure we'll have plenty of years to go places of our choosing, after he's grown.
i think people just wanted to point out that it just isnt like that. the authorities there are doing all they can to direct traffic and keep order. they have to bring in extras from all over the state just to handle that part of it. they would not go around with pics looking for someone. they would just say well they arent a missing person. they are at bonnaroo. they probably get dozens of request to do it each year. once you are there you will understand why it would be impossible for them to do anything. but i agree with you about doing things like roo with your kids while you can. soon enough they wont want us around anymore.
I'm not trying to be mean or anything, but unless your kid was 14 or younger they probably wouldn't do anything. Having a 17 year old go to a festival, that they said they were going to, doesn't really classify them as a missing person. Not to mention they really don't take runaways that seriously, this is a differant classification then possible abduction, which they do take seriously. They'd tell you to wait until monday and call if they didn't show up. Might I also point out the immaturity of abusing the missing children system to make a point to your child. I'm hoping this was just a knee-jerk reaction to a 'what if'.
Post by chicagorooer on Jan 31, 2007 17:07:52 GMT -5
if u go to the 'roo w/o your parents permission they will know u are with your sisters and friends. So if u bolt u sisters might catch some shit for letting u go!!!!!The best way to handle this is to kiss some serious ass. Do lot's of work around the house and stay out of trouble. Nothing better than seeing a teenager begging. If u follow this your parents will feel as though they still have control over u and u will get what u want. Good grades on the report card are also key. step it up a little maybe even get a teacher to call and say how great u are doing in class(i had some cool teachers who would do that)...U got to step up your game crying will only get u so far......Good thing is 'roo isn't next week so u have 4 ++ months to change there minds....goodluck.....If all else fails leave a note and cruise with your sister(only after u tried the ass kissing part till your lips were chapped)
Post by areyoukind on Jan 31, 2007 18:05:31 GMT -5
oh yea ^^^ that is key.
i turned my phone off on thursday night and called them monday morning to tell them i was on a greyhound the next day.
they were sooo worried. i still feel bad about that.
at the same time, i don't regret it at all, because that was my first roo, and my 2 best friends first roo also. if i had missed that i would still be regretting it.
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Post by oatmealschnappz on Feb 1, 2007 2:56:10 GMT -5
cluelessmom said:
You're right, we've never been to Roo. I have been in very large crowds before, where people were located when necessary. This wouldn't be like 2 adults trying to locate each other. I agree that would be impossible. If it was a minor runaway, it would be cops using walkie talkies to communicate with each other & passing out flyers with the child's picture on them. In most cases, they would have crossed their state line making it a federal issue as well. They wouldn't need to check anyone's ID. They would just be looking for the person in the picture. Eventually, someone at the festival would have seen them. A missing minor is taken very seriously.
I really wish I had a mom as cool as you when I was growing-up. I didn't and that's why I said that I would just say "screw it" and go, facing whatever punishment I was given afterward. I am, however, a little concerned that you really may have NO idea of what your getting into. Bonnaroo is an extremely fun event! There are great bands and great people everywhere, but it is very chaotic....and VERY large! People are 100% right when they say that it's damn near impossible to find someone there, even when you've coordinated-it in advance. It's that big and crowded. It can be overwhelming at times. Once on the site, there really are NO police. It's just mounted security who have their hands entirely full with crowd-control, not having time for much else except catching the occasional theif or breaking-up the (very,very,very) RARE fight. It's practicaly it's own city, totally seperated from the outside community in every way. In'04 my girlfriend grossly underestimated what she was in-for and ended-up in the medical tent suffering from a combination of a panic attack and dehydration. All she wanted to do is leave, get a hotel room somewhere amd wait for me...but that simply wasn't an option. It's that cut-off. I'm not trying to scare you out of going, but I just think that you need to fully understand how it works. It's nothing like any concert that you've ever been to, but if you're prepared and you let-it, it can be one of the best times you'll ever have!
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lol ;D I didn't expect this to turn into what a mom in a hypothetical situation would do. It was my intention to let the OP know that going without permission is a bad idea, & the consequences may be more that what she bargained for.
You're right, we've never been to Roo. I have been in very large crowds before, where people were located when necessary. This wouldn't be like 2 adults trying to locate each other. I agree that would be impossible. If it was a minor runaway, it would be cops using walkie talkies to communicate with each other & passing out flyers with the child's picture on them. In most cases, they would have crossed their state line making it a federal issue as well. They wouldn't need to check anyone's ID. They would just be looking for the person in the picture. Eventually, someone at the festival would have seen them. A missing minor is taken very seriously.
I'm not quite sure how this became about me, & I don't ever expect to be in the hypothetical situation, so it's a moot point as far as I'm concerned. I'll pass the thread back to the OP now.
BTW, I'd be shocked if there was always parents on the other side of the fence looking for their kids. I'd like to think there wouldn't be many who would go without permission.
frankthemute said:
P.S. to the mom : You sound like a cool mom goin to Roo with your kid, but I hope it isnt outta distrust but rather U wanna have a fun time with your kid which Im sure it is. But, you will see in June, Ud never find your kid there lol. We need more parents at Roo!!!! You wouldnt believe how cool they can be sometimes when put in the proper environment. Even tho my mom is a church goin, god fearing conservative, I love her and he would love Roo.
We're all going to Roo, because we think family vacations should involve the whole family. It's not a trust at all. We like to go places he'll enjoy, because we figure we'll have plenty of years to go places of our choosing, after he's grown.
Yea I think they might keep there eyes open for a description of your kid but the event is only four days and if you know he is there hes really not a "runaway". I don't think they would go on some insane search for a 17 year old. They would probably tell any parents to get a hotel and your going to have to wait till after the festival.
Post by stuckinutero on Feb 2, 2007 23:42:44 GMT -5
hellogoodbye said:
oh wow. yeah, im worried if i sneakly go, with my luck the car will break down in tennessee and I'd have to call them haha.
and my parents said " we know what you'll be doing down there " ... and I said - yeah, the same as I'll be doing up here, but just a different scene.
I tried to give them a guilt trip, I said If they say I can't go, then it's like telling a little kid Christmas is cancelled. They just laughed ...
Ouch, bad approach. I've played my parents the vast majority of my life and have managed to mold a great relationship with them and more freedoms than I could ever need. I'm 22 now and my terms with my parents are the same as they were literally 8 years ago. Don't ask and I won't tell, ontop of it I'll keep my sh*t together nicely.
Ultimately it comes down to what kind of kid you are and what kind of parents you have. My terms would have worked nicely for most people, but after a while even I screwed things up. Your parents are just worried that you'll turn into some worthless street junkie. My folks went through some rough times and understandably couldn't keep such a close eye on me. I hate sounding like people who spoke to me when I was younger, but be thankful to a degree that your parents throw their 2 cents in. I screwed myself up on some bad sh*t for a long time because I didnt have anybody to smack me in the back of the head. It also doesnt matter what your mindset is now, its going to change drastically over the next few years of your life. Parents should be scared, its easier for kids to get a bundle of smack than a case of beer. Humans also tend to occassionally make terrible decisions and this is even more pronounced in your teens.
My advice? Butter them up. Promise to call them every 6 (waking)hours from the festival. Offer to do some work around the house. If your parents know you screw around with drugs then start off with the brilliant "I'm really not into that anymore, I know too many people who've had bad experiences" line. Be creative, but absolutely do not say things to spite them like saying youre gonna do drugs at home anyway. If they're not made of stone (I've my share) then they should give in with more than enough time to order tickets and thank me for the advice
I was born in the back seat of a Yellow Cab in a hospital loading zone and with the meter still running. I emerged needing a shave and shouted 'Time Square, and step on it!
Post by HelloGoodbye on Feb 3, 2007 9:45:40 GMT -5
That is good advice. Thank you.
I've already started the helping out around the house, and being respectful alot more thing. And a few times the rents have said " aw, you're such a good kid "
The calling every so hours will definitly be good to say to them. I didn't even think of that.
And the line-up comes out Feb.14th aka my 17th birthday. So maybe they'll be nice, and just let me go as my birthday present. ( Crosses Fingers )
Last year my 17 year old brother wanted to go, but my dad and stepmom said no. So I called them up, told them that I would keep an eye on him the whole time. I told them that the festival was very safe and i shouldered the responsibilty of watching him. I felt like it was my obligation as being the "cool" older brother to at least try to get it so he could come. They relented and he got to come and now he is getting to go again this year. It is all about building that trust.
I am so happy that my mom is as understanding as she is. I haven't asked her permission for anything since I was 14 or 15. Since then, I've been mature enough to let her know what I am doing, and what my plans are. She just let me do what I want, cause she knew I could be trusted.
Now, though I am 19 and moved out, I still call her once in a while and let her know what my plans are. She knows I went to the roo last year, and she knows what I did there.
You have to have a good relationship with your parents. Don't just do the typical sucking up, talk to them. Act interested in their life. Do as much as you can to show them an adult, without being too obvious about it. If they see you as an adult, they will treat you like one.
