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RI Gal is concerned I'm spending too much time on Occupy.
I told her I'd dump her if she made me choose between the two. She shut up, for now. But said yesterday again she was annoyed with how much time I spend on it.
RI Gal is concerned I'm spending too much time on Occupy.
I told her I'd dump her if she made me choose between the two. She shut up, for now. But said yesterday again she was annoyed with how much time I spend on it.
Well, now ya gotta stick to your guns. DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES change what you love doing because of a signifigant other's complaints. If you do, she'll lose respect and attraction for you. Fact. If she was attracted to you for who you were when you met, stay that guy (and make your own life improvements on your own terms). If she was attracted to you because she thinks she can change you into what she secretly wants, kick her ass to the curb stat and move on to something better. Chances are she's just testing your resolve. Keep a firm grip on that rudder, man.
Holls... Although I agree with you in principle, you are not picking up what I am laying down.
"hey, Im having a bad day. I cant get together tonight, maybe some other time" takes 10 seconds. If she is like most of us, she got his text about going out that night and CHOSE not to respond. Its not being discompassionate about her situation, it is about her rude behavior.
If she responds to a shakeup by being rude, although I understand she is going through a rough time, I don't want to deal with that. Sorry.
Platinum rule: Treat others how THEY want to be treated. Do you really think Phi wanted to be blown off with no response and no explanation? Totally ignored when he planned on taking her out? Knowing that she more than likely got his text and decided to say "ah, eff him, Im not going to say squat"??/
No. He didn't want to or deserve to be treated that way. She was rude. That is my problem, not the fact that she has something going on.
I'm gonna agree with Phi and Surfbum here. It's got nothing to do with compassion, it's the pure point that she didn't just take 10 seconds to text "hey im not feeling well, gotta cancel" that makes it for me. Letting someone spend their entire night waiting on YOU is incredibly rude. If it was something serious like a death, then maybe that gives her a little more wiggle room, but otherwise I think ruining someone else's night (which could've been avoided with 1 text) makes her not only inconsiderate, but LAZY.
FINE! WHATEVER! Excuse the hell outta me for trying to be a voice of reason...
Don't give the girl the benefit of the doubt. Be a world-class schmuck! Why stop there? Don't give ANYBODY a second chance! Assume everybody's a jerk and live accordingly. Assume everybody has an ulterior motive, is out to screw you over, can't be trusted, and is heartless, selfish, and rude. Yeah, take that approach & see how that works for you.
FINE! WHATEVER! Excuse the hell outta me for trying to be a voice of reason...
Don't give the girl the benefit of the doubt. Be a world-class schmuck! Why stop there? Don't give ANYBODY a second chance! Assume everybody's a jerk and live accordingly. Assume everybody has an ulterior motive, is out to screw you over, can't be trusted, and is heartless, selfish, and rude. Yeah, take that approach & see how that works for you.
Easy there, tiger. Don't let your GOP rage spill over onto the boards.
I'd allow her one text to give a good explanation: Death/Family illness/ etc. are the only good excuses. If her reason was something along the line of depression/anxiety/etc, why would you even want to mess with that? She's not ready for a boyfriend anyways. If her reason was anything else.. I am with the majority here and she should have texted you. Her loss, but I would next her too
Welcome back Bonz, but I do not find it strange that your presence being requested in the Orgy thread and then you showing up, like it was the quacking Bonzai Bat Signal.
Had to work very early today (4:30 am). Got home at noon and took a nap. About to go sit at a rooftop bar with a friend and enjoy the rest of this beautiful day!
So I had made plans last night to hang out with this chick. We've seen each other maybe 4-5 times now. She was going to come over and watch basketball, no big date plans or anything.
Yesterday around 2pm I txt her and tell her to come over around 8pm. No response. At about 7pm I txt her again and say "I guess just shoot me a txt whenever you get this". No response. I didnt txt again after that.
Today, she finally txts me and it reads "I'm sorry I didn't text you back. I had a bad day yesterday and just wanted to be alone. I should've let you know. Sorry".
WTF?
lol
I'm weighing in super late on this, but I just had to comment because I had this exact scenario happen to me early on in a relationship a few years ago. I took the p*ssy approach and let her get away with that inconsiderate behavior and continued pursuing her. That type of behavior was essentially the theme to the relationship, and led to copious amounts of heartache that could have been avoided had I simply dropped her the first time it happened. Therefore, I am gonna have to side with surfbumdj's overall point on this one.
I also now realize it was stupid of me to continue pursuing her when the generally inconsiderate behavior kept repeating itself, but at least I can say from experience that this incident should serve as a major red flag for you or anyone else in a similar situation.
So I had made plans last night to hang out with this chick. We've seen each other maybe 4-5 times now. She was going to come over and watch basketball, no big date plans or anything.
Yesterday around 2pm I txt her and tell her to come over around 8pm. No response. At about 7pm I txt her again and say "I guess just shoot me a txt whenever you get this". No response. I didnt txt again after that.
Today, she finally txts me and it reads "I'm sorry I didn't text you back. I had a bad day yesterday and just wanted to be alone. I should've let you know. Sorry".
WTF?
lol
I'm weighing in super late on this, but I just had to comment because I had this exact scenario happen to me early on in a relationship a few years ago. I took the p*ssy approach and let her get away with that inconsiderate behavior and continued pursuing her. That type of behavior was essentially the theme to the relationship, and led to copious amounts of heartache that could have been avoided had I simply dropped her the first time it happened. Therefore, I am gonna have to side with surfbumdj's overall point on this one.
I also now realize it was stupid of me to continue pursuing her when the generally inconsiderate behavior kept repeating itself, but at least I can say from experience that this incident should serve as a major red flag for you or anyone else in a similar situation.
Consdering you live in Nashville, maybe we are talking about the same girl lol
I'm weighing in super late on this, but I just had to comment because I had this exact scenario happen to me early on in a relationship a few years ago. I took the p*ssy approach and let her get away with that inconsiderate behavior and continued pursuing her. That type of behavior was essentially the theme to the relationship, and led to copious amounts of heartache that could have been avoided had I simply dropped her the first time it happened. Therefore, I am gonna have to side with surfbumdj's overall point on this one.
I also now realize it was stupid of me to continue pursuing her when the generally inconsiderate behavior kept repeating itself, but at least I can say from experience that this incident should serve as a major red flag for you or anyone else in a similar situation.
Consdering you live in Nashville, maybe we are talking about the same girl lol
Haha, it's possible. I was in school in Knoxville at the time, though. She was very hot and I was drinking too much...still do, but useta too.
RI Gal is concerned I'm spending too much time on Occupy.
I told her I'd dump her if she made me choose between the two. She shut up, for now. But said yesterday again she was annoyed with how much time I spend on it.
Don't let anyone change your passions. However, does she have a legit gripe? Are you able to look at this objectively and tell if she does. For instance, if you spend 80% of your free time on Occupy..or any other such passion, and only 20% of your free time fostering a relationship with her, then you probably aren't ready for a relationship with anyone just yet. Nothing wrong with that at all, but if that is the case, perhaps you should channel all of your energy into what you love. It's truly unfair to string along someone who expects more than you are able to give.
We're all a mess of paradoxes. Believing in things we know can't be true. We walk around carrying feelings too complicated and contradictory to express. But when it all becomes too big, and words aren't enough to help get it all out, there's always music.
Nashville just removed the last tent from our legislative plaza last week. we passed a law saying you can not camp on government property. thank GOD!
i'm all for voicing your opinions and making your voices heard, but our capitol was looking like a homeless shelter with all the tents and crap up there and it was a huge eye sore.
RI Gal is concerned I'm spending too much time on Occupy.
I told her I'd dump her if she made me choose between the two. She shut up, for now. But said yesterday again she was annoyed with how much time I spend on it.
Don't let anyone change your passions. However, does she have a legit gripe? Are you able to look at this objectively and tell if she does. For instance, if you spend 80% of your free time on Occupy..or any other such passion, and only 20% of your free time fostering a relationship with her, then you probably aren't ready for a relationship with anyone just yet. Nothing wrong with that at all, but if that is the case, perhaps you should channel all of your energy into what you love. It's truly unfair to string along someone who expects more than you are able to give.
I have to agree. If her needs are more than you are willing to meet at this point in time, and you like this girl, maybe letting her go to get all of her needs met may be the right move. Abandoning your own beliefs/interests for a woman is never the right move.
Kudos for standing up for yourself, and having enough self respect and resolve to not attempt to change yourself for someone else.
Had to work very early today (4:30 am). Got home at noon and took a nap. About to go sit at a rooftop bar with a friend and enjoy the rest of this beautiful day!
I totally stalked you and wondered why you were checking in to the coke place so early But cheers to the rooftop bar! I knew that I had no chance of enjoying the beauuuuutiful day we had today, but I did manage to switch into a patio shift tonight so at least I got to breath from fresh air!
Welcome back Bonz, but I do not find it strange that your presence being requested in the Orgy thread and then you showing up, like it was the quacking Bonzai Bat Signal.
Most of the camps are gone. New Haven is the only one left around here. I know TN passed that really really BS law a couple weeks ago and pulled stunts breaking up ONash. OChatt got broke up today.
The camps were interesting, and are to the few left. They are mostly homeless shelters though. I never would have stayed in one, and certainly we survive without them. But I support the right of those who want to do it... and can maintain it. New Haven was looking trashy for a little while, and most were just dumpy to begin with. But it was an environment of community and intellectual discussion not easily seen elsewhere in society. It was an interesting experience: Worcester, Boston, Hartford, New Haven, Providence, and both in DC.
Most of my time is spent planning actions or reading news and Facebook updates. Going to meetings and whatnot. We had a good action against Pfizer three weeks ago, and now am planning a gathering of New England groups.
RI Gal's biggest complaint is I look at my phone or computer too much, mostly keeping up with all going on around the area.
Welcome back Bonz, but I do not find it strange that your presence being requested in the Orgy thread and then you showing up, like it was the quacking Bonzai Bat Signal.
Guys. Seriously, guys. I'm disappointed this thread only has a couple new pages since I last checked in. I feel like you aren't drinking and rambling enough. Let's fix this.
I just planned a pre-roo camping trip and I'm so excited I could pee myself!
but I do not find it strange that your presence being requested in the Orgy thread and then you showing up, like it was the quacking Bonzai Bat Signal. 
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I knew that I had no chance of enjoying the beauuuuutiful day we had today, but I did manage to switch into a patio shift tonight so at least I got to breath from fresh air!
