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ya know - I could go into it on here - I have no secrets - but Boz is around here also - I am just frustrated - that is just the best way to put it.
goes back to what was posted earlier - once you are married with kids - it just ain't happening - cuz if you want it - he doesn't and when he does - you don't and on the rare occasion that you both do - then the kids interfere somehow.
I need a weekend away - in a nice hotel - with no household work - no kids - lots of wine and corn and my husband.
Post by oleander124 on Aug 1, 2007 10:00:14 GMT -5
I get frustrated. My bf and I have been together almost 4 years and I suppose we're in a rut. It doesn't seem that he initiates it..I'm usually the one to do so. I'm not the "seductive" type and don't know/am not comfortable with having to get him in the mood, so it only happens on weekends if we're lucky.
I wish the spark could stay all of the time. I also wish he made me feel more sexy by actually initiating it instead of me having to do it. (That's how it seems to me, anyways.)
I get frustrated. My bf and I have been together almost 4 years and I suppose we're in a rut. It doesn't seem that he initiates it..I'm usually the one to do so. I'm not the "seductive" type and don't know/am not comfortable with having to get him in the mood, so it only happens on weekends if we're lucky.
I wish the spark could stay all of the time. I also wish he made me feel more sexy by actually initiating it instead of me having to do it. (That's how it seems to me, anyways.)
^^^^ yeah that! and by initiating - I am sure you mean more then a boob grab as you walk by or being dry humped when you happen to bend over to pick something up.
Also - tell me do these words ever turn you on "Do you wanna fuck"? (not that I ever really get that - he is good about that)
Post by oleander124 on Aug 1, 2007 10:15:34 GMT -5
bos1969 said:
Also - tell me do these words ever turn you on "Do you wanna fuck"? (not that I ever really get that - he is good about that)
Sometimes I'm the one that says that. I feel like I'm the only one in our relationship that even thinks about sex.
I don't want to only do it in the morning cause he happens to have a boner when he wakes up. Morning sex is fun, but sometimes I would like to not experience morning breath. ew!
I want romance. I want him to actually kiss me and stuff to get me in the mood. Hell...I'd take a dry hump at this point.
I have been married for 3 years and have been with my guy since 1993 so I know ruts. Since we have been married, sex has gotten better and more frequent (I know, random, huh?). I think it's because we have made a super effort to be more connected on various levels - he quit his stressful job so we'd see each other more often, we have a "date night" at least once a week where we turn off the phone, watch TV, get some wine and good food... usually doesn't include going out. It's like we're courting one another again. And when he has said stuff like "wanna go fck?" I tell him that if he says that again he may never get laid again. Finally he has gotten the drift. But yeah, I get up an hour early each morning to get chores done so when i get home I am not stressing about laundry or cleaning the bathroom so when i see him I don't get pissed. When he has a weekday off, he makes sure to spend half of it doing errands and chores so it's out of the way and we do a contest on weekends of one hour of cleaning, him downstairs, me upstairs to race to get done and we yell at each other of what we plan to do when done. Makes cleaning sorta foreplay.
Gosh we sound like such toolbags. But it works. I have 1 FT and 2 side jobs, he has 4 jobs and a second house to maintain and we still fit time for it. Sometimes it's not as romantic and an "event," but it keeps the fire going. But then we don't have kids yet and I know that totally and utterly changes the situation
Post by oleander124 on Aug 1, 2007 10:29:17 GMT -5
bos1969 said:
oleander124 said:
I want romance. I want him to actually kiss me and stuff to get me in the mood.
that says it all for me - I want to feel sexy and wanted (I have a horrible body image as it is and lately - I just do not feel wanted)
Me too, me too! I am a little worried that I am in a relationship with his dad (not literally). I don't know that my bf was ever taught how to be romantic. His parents have a bad relationship and I don't think they had sex since he was conceived 37 years ago. I don't even know why they are together anymore.
But, we have a great relationship, but that one area causes problems for us.
Becca...awwww don't be scared! Every relationship is different.
Oh - I know he can be romantic - then we got married - I got romance after the baby was born - but nowadays - we are too tired , stressed and broke for romance
LOL! I don't know whether this thread is depressing me more or cheering me up ??? Alternately both I think! It's nice to know I'm not alone in my frustrations, but also sad to know that it seems a lot of us are going through some rough times I really think it's that moon phase thingy....course the kid theory...kinda hard to dispute that one....
LOL...It does make me feel better knowing that I'm not the only one not getting any. As for the kid theory... I'm single and don't have any so I can't use that excuse. Maybe we need to organize some kind of inforoo orgy party somewhere. It sure sounds like there are enough of us in this predicament.
I seriously agree about the moon phase thingy and thing that kids just complicate it further - all I can say about tonight is even with a locked door - the kids have a sixth sense and that is when they all want something at the same time
Awww, that stinks Meg! Kids should just see dead people with that sixth sense thing!
Hmmm, that orgy party thing, you might have something there chick! LOL! Course we couldn't all even manage to meet up for a Brunch at Bonnaroo so.... Don't know if we are organized enough for that - ;D
Hmmm, that orgy party thing, you might have something there chick! LOL! Course we couldn't all even manage to meet up for a Brunch at Bonnaroo so.... Don't know if we are organized enough for that - ;D
LOL...I guess you do have a point there. Although... a bunch of us (myself included) did make it to brunch.
LMAO! Touche! What I meant to say was "you'll have to draw my stupid ass a map of how to get there, print out the map quest driving directions and make sure my GPS is programmed correctly or there's no way in HELL I'll find the place "
Post by msfelithatsme on Aug 1, 2007 23:01:46 GMT -5
ok. well since this is the sex thread i will vent this.
im sure most of you know my predicament. but yeah. so since i was going to be living with a boy and having LOTS of sex.. for a change.. cause its about time... i went on birth control about 2 months ago.
now i havent had sex without a condom in years. and years. since the last time i was on bc which was 5 years ago at least. i one of those chics who will not risk it unless i know we are monogamous and tested. so finally i was real excited about getting it on without the "let-me-get-the-condom-oops-it-dropped-on-the-floor-hold-on-and-lay-there-one-more-second-till-its-on" delay in action.
i hate to admit it. but what a letdown for me now.. with no condom-less sex in site!!! depressssssssssssing! no sex at all in site really! boo.
and while i am single with no kids.. i can feel for you parents. i can remember back to when i was little.. and every sunday when my parents closed the door to their bedroom i started bothering them and needing stuff! lol.
Post by crazykittensmile on Aug 1, 2007 23:13:44 GMT -5
bos1969 said:
I seriously agree about the moon phase thingy and thing that kids just complicate it further - all I can say about tonight is even with a locked door - the kids have a sixth sense and that is when they all want something at the same time
do what my parents did and tell them they can only knock if someone is bleeding or the house is burning down. i fully plan on employing that someday, myself!
I seriously agree about the moon phase thingy and thing that kids just complicate it further - all I can say about tonight is even with a locked door - the kids have a sixth sense and that is when they all want something at the same time
do what my parents did and tell them they can only knock if someone is bleeding or the house is burning down. i fully plan on employing that someday, myself!
LMAO - that works with the older two - but not with a 2 year old - who just can't quite grasp the idea that Mommy and Daddy are not always there - LOL
Just an idea, for the couples having lulls in the bedroom.
Are you both getting enough exercise? My wife and I went through the same sort of slump. Once we started working out and eating better, the good-times occured more often. It doesn't matter how horny you are if you're too tired to perform.