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Actually, I've got a question for people that have older kids:
My oldest is turning 8 next week. We made her wait until she turned 7 to start Harry Potter. I've been reading the illustrated versions with her and we were just limiting it to the first two books but after the second lap through I broke down and read the third with her. We finished PoA for the second time last night and we're starting Goblet of Fire tonight. (She was supposed to wait until her birthday but I told her we could start a few days early.)
I'm going into this preparing her that things start to get darker and I don't plan on moving on to Order of the Phoenix for a while. But I also was planning on doing Azkaban when she turned 8 and Goblet at 9 so my plan is all off.
If anybody read these with your kids (after they were all released), how did you pace it out so that they didn't get to the darker stuff too young?
My teens are a pain in the butt. The young-ins are good and make me miss the days when my older set was little. As a single parent I feel like I never have enough time for everyone and my own stuff. Soon enough the teens will be grown and I'll still worry but I don't know what to expect when they are finally "adults", only time will tell..
One of my kids handed me a Christmas present when he got in the car. After explaining for the duration of the ride home that it was a Christmas present and I wanted to wait for CHRISTMAS, he opened it for me. It was a magnet that looked like a $100.
He says to me “NOW YOUR NOT BROKE” and wants to go to the store so I can buy him something.
My teens are a pain in the butt. The young-ins are good and make me miss the days when my older set was little. As a single parent I feel like I never have enough time for everyone and my own stuff. Soon enough the teens will be grown and I'll still worry but I don't know what to expect when they are finally "adults", only time will tell..
For me, it has been like rediscovering the pure joy of having them again. Only a different sort of joy. Of course you never stop loving them, but sometimes they are difficult to "like" as teenagers, or at least tolerate. As adults, I have found that I like them again. Truly find them to be amazing human beings that the earth is so lucky to have.
We're all a mess of paradoxes. Believing in things we know can't be true. We walk around carrying feelings too complicated and contradictory to express. But when it all becomes too big, and words aren't enough to help get it all out, there's always music.
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Harry Potter came out in 2001 when Kyle was three. We started reading the books around then and read them every single year together when they came out. He also lost his father when he was four so he was mentally a little bit more adjusted to dark shit. Maybe? Idk. That made him around 7 for book 4. He loved them, cried during them and got scared sometimes; but his favorite movie at the age of two was Jurassic Park.
As a single parent I was a little bit more lenient about the things that I allowed Kyle to watch. Just never straight up horror until he was a preteen.
Post by jorgeandthekraken on Dec 7, 2021 17:28:18 GMT -5
Not to date myself, but my parents took me to see Star Wars Ep. IV: A New Hope in its original theatrical run when I was two years old (it was just "Star Wars" back then). The image of Darth Vader appearing on screen for the first time in that film is one of the earliest things in my life I can remember clearly. Apparently, I hid under the seat a couple of times.
Also, this thread is awesome and I very much look forward to getting all of my parenting advice from Inforoo.
For me, it has been like rediscovering the pure joy of having them again. Only a different sort of joy. Of course you never stop loving them, but sometimes they are difficult to "like" as teenagers, or at least tolerate. As adults, I have found that I like them again. Truly find them to be amazing human beings that the earth is so lucky to have.
Yea, I'm seeing that with my oldest (17) he matured a bit and is not such a pain anymore. He still makes mistakes but his heart is in the right place.
The others(15 and twin 14 y.o.) still have a ways to go but they''l get there soon (hopefully).
I don't get how they could fight all the time, like just chill out and be nice to each other!! lol teenage boys are a whole 'nother level.
For me, it has been like rediscovering the pure joy of having them again. Only a different sort of joy. Of course you never stop loving them, but sometimes they are difficult to "like" as teenagers, or at least tolerate. As adults, I have found that I like them again. Truly find them to be amazing human beings that the earth is so lucky to have.
Yea, I'm seeing that with my oldest (17) he matured a bit and is not such a pain anymore. He still makes mistakes but his heart is in the right place.
The others(15 and twin 14 y.o.) still have a ways to go but they''l get there soon (hopefully).
I don't get how they could fight all the time, like just chill out and be nice to each other!! lol teenage boys are a whole 'nother level.
Awwww. That sounds energizing, yet exhausting? How are you doing all of that as a single parent?
Mine are both boys as well, but are almost 10 years apart. So it was like raising two only children. They have constantly been in different developmental stages so no fighting and sometimes very little interaction. But I can imagine if they were closer in age or if my 19yr old son's twin were still here that it would have been hard to handle sometimes. My oldest was difficult to manage for awhile. I didn't think he and I were going to make it out of his adolescence alive ahahah.
We're all a mess of paradoxes. Believing in things we know can't be true. We walk around carrying feelings too complicated and contradictory to express. But when it all becomes too big, and words aren't enough to help get it all out, there's always music.
Awwww. That sounds energizing, yet exhausting? How are you doing all of that as a single parent?
Mine are both boys as well, but are almost 10 years apart. So it was like raising two only children. They have constantly been in different developmental stages so no fighting and sometimes very little interaction. But I can imagine if they were closer in age or if my 19yr old son's twin were still here that it would have been hard to handle sometimes. My oldest was difficult to manage for awhile. I didn't think he and I were going to make it out of his adolescence alive ahahah.
It's difficult at times but I get by hahaha.
I've had the 4 older boys fulltime since they were still in diapers and I split the littles (7y.o. boy and 4y.o. daughter) 50/50 with my ex.
The older ones do pretty good with the littles but there is that "annoying little brother /sister" thing sometimes.
Overall when I step back I see that they're good kids just bouts of teenage sass and emo-ness every so often.
One of my kids handed me a Christmas present when he got in the car. After explaining for the duration of the ride home that it was a Christmas present and I wanted to wait for CHRISTMAS, he opened it for me. It was a magnet that looked like a $100.
He says to me “NOW YOUR NOT BROKE” and wants to go to the store so I can buy him something.
Straight asshole.
I think this isn't an answer you want but I definitely think it's about the kid. My niece and nephew have no issue with jurassic Park and blood and violence so I'm not so worried. I don't think the intricacies of some of the middle movies woth resonate with their younger minds and maybe they won't like them? No idea. Just a thought.
Welcome back Bonz, but I do not find it strange that your presence being requested in the Orgy thread and then you showing up, like it was the quacking Bonzai Bat Signal.
Actually, I've got a question for people that have older kids:
My oldest is turning 8 next week. We made her wait until she turned 7 to start Harry Potter. I've been reading the illustrated versions with her and we were just limiting it to the first two books but after the second lap through I broke down and read the third with her. We finished PoA for the second time last night and we're starting Goblet of Fire tonight. (She was supposed to wait until her birthday but I told her we could start a few days early.)
I'm going into this preparing her that things start to get darker and I don't plan on moving on to Order of the Phoenix for a while. But I also was planning on doing Azkaban when she turned 8 and Goblet at 9 so my plan is all off.
If anybody read these with your kids (after they were all released), how did you pace it out so that they didn't get to the darker stuff too young?
not a parent! but thats about how old i was when i read through them all. i wouldn't try and make her put it off, she'll likely just do what i did and read them in her school library if she's that into it, but worse case maybe she loses interest and never gets back into reading them?
idk i mean they do get slightly darker but its not like the story isn't preparing you for that a little more each one. i'd also say there's an argument to be made Goblet is creepier than Phoenix.
Actually, I've got a question for people that have older kids:
My oldest is turning 8 next week. We made her wait until she turned 7 to start Harry Potter. I've been reading the illustrated versions with her and we were just limiting it to the first two books but after the second lap through I broke down and read the third with her. We finished PoA for the second time last night and we're starting Goblet of Fire tonight. (She was supposed to wait until her birthday but I told her we could start a few days early.)
I'm going into this preparing her that things start to get darker and I don't plan on moving on to Order of the Phoenix for a while. But I also was planning on doing Azkaban when she turned 8 and Goblet at 9 so my plan is all off.
If anybody read these with your kids (after they were all released), how did you pace it out so that they didn't get to the darker stuff too young?
not a parent! but thats about how old i was when i read through them all. i wouldn't try and make her put it off, she'll likely just do what i did and read them in her school library if she's that into it, but worse case maybe she loses interest and never gets back into reading them?
idk i mean they do get slightly darker but its not like the story isn't preparing you for that a little more each one. i'd also say there's an argument to be made Goblet is creepier than Phoenix.
has she seen any of the movies?
Also not a parent, but also read them all around 2nd-4th grade. Don't think any of it messed me up at all and I read them thoroughly. I think a lot of the dark stuff doesn't hit as much because you're so deeply entrenched in a fantasy world already. I don't remember feeling like any of the bad stuff could touch me because it was in some far away imaginary place. That didn't stop me for waiting for my invitation to Hogwarts when I turned 11 though lmao
Actually, I've got a question for people that have older kids:
My oldest is turning 8 next week. We made her wait until she turned 7 to start Harry Potter. I've been reading the illustrated versions with her and we were just limiting it to the first two books but after the second lap through I broke down and read the third with her. We finished PoA for the second time last night and we're starting Goblet of Fire tonight. (She was supposed to wait until her birthday but I told her we could start a few days early.)
I'm going into this preparing her that things start to get darker and I don't plan on moving on to Order of the Phoenix for a while. But I also was planning on doing Azkaban when she turned 8 and Goblet at 9 so my plan is all off.
If anybody read these with your kids (after they were all released), how did you pace it out so that they didn't get to the darker stuff too young?
not a parent! but thats about how old i was when i read through them all. i wouldn't try and make her put it off, she'll likely just do what i did and read them in her school library if she's that into it, but worse case maybe she loses interest and never gets back into reading them?
idk i mean they do get slightly darker but its not like the story isn't preparing you for that a little more each one. i'd also say there's an argument to be made Goblet is creepier than Phoenix.
not a parent! but thats about how old i was when i read through them all. i wouldn't try and make her put it off, she'll likely just do what i did and read them in her school library if she's that into it, but worse case maybe she loses interest and never gets back into reading them?
idk i mean they do get slightly darker but its not like the story isn't preparing you for that a little more each one. i'd also say there's an argument to be made Goblet is creepier than Phoenix.
has she seen any of the movies?
Also not a parent, but also read them all around 2nd-4th grade. Don't think any of it messed me up at all and I read them thoroughly. I think a lot of the dark stuff doesn't hit as much because you're so deeply entrenched in a fantasy world already. I don't remember feeling like any of the bad stuff could touch me because it was in some far away imaginary place. That didn't stop me for waiting for my invitation to Hogwarts when I turned 11 though lmao
I mostly worry about the big deaths in the last three books but I also don't want them spoiled, which will happen at some point if we wait too long.
But y'all are right. She'll probably be fine. She survived the Lion King. I'm probably being too careful with this.
Actually, I've got a question for people that have older kids:
My oldest is turning 8 next week. We made her wait until she turned 7 to start Harry Potter. I've been reading the illustrated versions with her and we were just limiting it to the first two books but after the second lap through I broke down and read the third with her. We finished PoA for the second time last night and we're starting Goblet of Fire tonight. (She was supposed to wait until her birthday but I told her we could start a few days early.)
I'm going into this preparing her that things start to get darker and I don't plan on moving on to Order of the Phoenix for a while. But I also was planning on doing Azkaban when she turned 8 and Goblet at 9 so my plan is all off.
If anybody read these with your kids (after they were all released), how did you pace it out so that they didn't get to the darker stuff too young?
My daughter is 9 and an avid reader. We are about halfway through sorcerers stone currently, because we are reading it together. I wanted it to be something we read together, but going forward I’m going to let her go at her own pace because she just wants to read them so bad, and she is such a voracious independent reader and we don’t cover enough pages reading together. Makes me sad, but glad she reads so much.
We’ve watched the movies though (blasphemy! I know)- we stopped at chamber of secrets for a long time. Like 2 years she only saw the first two, but she watched prisoner of Azkaban over thanksgiving with my wife (who isn’t a Harry Potter person and thought it was creepy-scary). The 9 year old begged to watch goblet of fire, and we finally relented on the day of my half marathon because I was stuck on the couch. All of the harry potters are on HBO Max, but goblet and the ones after aren’t on the kids version - I have to log into my adult profile to get it. It’s definitely darker, and she got a bit scared a few times. We aren’t watching anymore for a while. I forgot a bit about the books, but things definitely take a turn from “wizarding hijinks at boarding school” to “there’s a murderous, evil wizard out for revenge and power” really quickly.
Goblet of fire is when the HP franchise loses it’s innocence.
Actually, I've got a question for people that have older kids:
My oldest is turning 8 next week. We made her wait until she turned 7 to start Harry Potter. I've been reading the illustrated versions with her and we were just limiting it to the first two books but after the second lap through I broke down and read the third with her. We finished PoA for the second time last night and we're starting Goblet of Fire tonight. (She was supposed to wait until her birthday but I told her we could start a few days early.)
I'm going into this preparing her that things start to get darker and I don't plan on moving on to Order of the Phoenix for a while. But I also was planning on doing Azkaban when she turned 8 and Goblet at 9 so my plan is all off.
If anybody read these with your kids (after they were all released), how did you pace it out so that they didn't get to the darker stuff too young?
My daughter is 9 and an avid reader. We are about halfway through sorcerers stone currently, because we are reading it together. I wanted it to be something we read together, but going forward I’m going to let her go at her own pace because she just wants to read them so bad, and she is such a voracious independent reader and we don’t cover enough pages reading together. Makes me sad, but glad she reads so much.
We’ve watched the movies though (blasphemy! I know)- we stopped at chamber of secrets for a long time. Like 2 years she only saw the first two, but she watched prisoner of Azkaban over thanksgiving with my wife (who isn’t a Harry Potter person and thought it was creepy-scary). The 9 year old begged to watch goblet of fire, and we finally relented on the day of my half marathon because I was stuck on the couch. All of the harry potters are on HBO Max, but goblet and the ones after aren’t on the kids version - I have to log into my adult profile to get it. It’s definitely darker, and she got a bit scared a few times. We aren’t watching anymore for a while. I forgot a bit about the books, but things definitely take a turn from “wizarding hijinks at boarding school” to “there’s a murderous, evil wizard out for revenge and power” really quickly.
Goblet of fire is when the HP franchise loses it’s innocence.
Yeah, that was my take.
We've been doing a chapter a night most nights with me reading to her. After I read the book to her the first time she rereads them on her own. Trying to keep that going as long as possible. Besides, I'm shitty at reading aloud and I'm enjoying getting better at it.
Side note: Tonight I realized that I had never read 'gaol' aloud before. I knew what it meant but had been totally saying it wrong in my head.
My daughter is 9 and an avid reader. We are about halfway through sorcerers stone currently, because we are reading it together. I wanted it to be something we read together, but going forward I’m going to let her go at her own pace because she just wants to read them so bad, and she is such a voracious independent reader and we don’t cover enough pages reading together. Makes me sad, but glad she reads so much.
We’ve watched the movies though (blasphemy! I know)- we stopped at chamber of secrets for a long time. Like 2 years she only saw the first two, but she watched prisoner of Azkaban over thanksgiving with my wife (who isn’t a Harry Potter person and thought it was creepy-scary). The 9 year old begged to watch goblet of fire, and we finally relented on the day of my half marathon because I was stuck on the couch. All of the harry potters are on HBO Max, but goblet and the ones after aren’t on the kids version - I have to log into my adult profile to get it. It’s definitely darker, and she got a bit scared a few times. We aren’t watching anymore for a while. I forgot a bit about the books, but things definitely take a turn from “wizarding hijinks at boarding school” to “there’s a murderous, evil wizard out for revenge and power” really quickly.
Goblet of fire is when the HP franchise loses it’s innocence.
Yeah, that was my take.
We've been doing a chapter a night most nights with me reading to her. After I read the book to her the first time she rereads them on her own. Trying to keep that going as long as possible. Besides, I'm shitty at reading aloud and I'm enjoying getting better at it.
Side note: Tonight I realized that I had never read 'gaol' aloud before. I knew what it meant but had been totally saying it wrong in my head.
It's pronounced just like JAIL, right? How were you saying it?
We've been doing a chapter a night most nights with me reading to her. After I read the book to her the first time she rereads them on her own. Trying to keep that going as long as possible. Besides, I'm shitty at reading aloud and I'm enjoying getting better at it.
Side note: Tonight I realized that I had never read 'gaol' aloud before. I knew what it meant but had been totally saying it wrong in my head.
It's pronounced just like JAIL, right? How were you saying it?
I'm so glad they're doing an elf on the shelf at my kid's preschool so I don't have to do it at home.
We held out for a week, but my youngest kept asking.
I am so glad this wasn't a thing when Kyle was growing up. I only lost my grinch heart due to having Kyle, but that is a step too far. My brother is doing it with my niece and had it fishing in the fish tank yesterday. Too much effort to move him nightly. My condolences.
We held out for a week, but my youngest kept asking.
I am so glad this wasn't a thing when Kyle was growing up. I only lost my grinch heart due to having Kyle, but that is a step too far. My brother is doing it with my niece and had it fishing in the fish tank yesterday. Too much effort to move him nightly. My condolences.
We're basically grooming children for life in a surveillance state.
Seriously. The tooth fairy has already forgotten to come twice. I can't imagine that creepy elf remembering to move every night.
Once the tooth fairy had too many children to see, once she left it under mom's pillow by mistake. The struggle is real. "Man this elf is lazy as a sack of potatoes". I would never remember to move that elf.
We're all a mess of paradoxes. Believing in things we know can't be true. We walk around carrying feelings too complicated and contradictory to express. But when it all becomes too big, and words aren't enough to help get it all out, there's always music.
Vieux
Global Moderator Moderator Goddess Extraordinaire
but I do not find it strange that your presence being requested in the Orgy thread and then you showing up, like it was the quacking Bonzai Bat Signal. 
