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Never tell a lady how you really feel if you have your heart on your sleeve. Because it’s already bleeding out on the floor, that shizs just messy. No one wants that.
GRRRRRR to people dying, getting sick, and breaking up. September and October have been hard for so many people. Also, GRRRRRR to feeling stuck in life and alone. I don't know what I'm supposed to be doing with myself.
I don't have much to say regarding dying and getting sick, but I feel like sharing some thoughts on breaking up since it seems I'm not the only person in that situation right now. I find it applicable to feeling stuck in life and alone too.
Breaking up with someone you love causes so much emotional pain because you are losing a large portion of what defines you as a person. It is particularly painful when you are dumped because it is not your choice. You are left feeling empty because all of those hours spent with your ex need to be reassigned to other activities. This newfound uncertainty in your life creates a lot of tension. The more time you allotted for that person on a weekly basis and the longer you had that routine, the bigger the shock.
Now we are left with the task of redefining ourselves. Who are we going to become? If you think back long enough, there was a previous time in your life when you had to make these decisions. It’s like your first day of summer camp, or college, what have you. Your biggest struggle should be finding out what makes you happy as an individual. Embrace it. There are only so many hours in a day, so make them count.
To give some background on myself: I’m in the middle of my second year of law school. I was convinced that my girlfriend from college was the one. I was planning on proposing to her when I graduated in a year and a half. Things were going well. And the break up hit me like an anvil out of the sky. (Just over a month ago).
My whole life felt like it was crumbling. I was debilitated physically and emotionally. I felt like I lost my purpose.
But…and there is always a but…I finally started to see this as an opportunity instead of a travesty. Because I was doing a “long distance” between New York and Philadelphia, I didn’t provide myself with much of an opportunity to socialize at school. This is where the being stuck in life and alone part come in. I found that I literally had no real friends here. What the hell was I supposed to do?
Over time, I realized that only I can make things right for me again. When you are in a situation like this you need to put in the extra work and make the extra effort. You need to really think and figure out how you want to be as a person, and then you need to make it happen. Only you can do it.
I’ve made some friends the last couple weeks just by putting myself out there – trying extra hard to be outgoing. I’ve been working hard, studying with people, applying to jobs, and forcing myself to make plans on the weekend. The past couple weekends I’ve gone to parties where I literally only knew the person who brought me there. And when I got there, I introduced myself to anyone I was standing near.
Being alone in life sucks. Not having a direction sucks. But it’s all curable by your own actions. You determine who you are and where you go, so figure out who and where that is and get there.
Over the last month I think figured out the “who I want to be” and “where I want to go” part. I’m still far from getting there and taking it day by day is the only way right now. Outside of a coffee date with a girl I met at one of those parties (seriously, get out there and say hi to people), I have NO IDEA what I’m doing this weekend. But I have comfort that I’ll be OK. I didn't know I was going to that party until 2 hours before it happened…and I only went there because I took the effort to text an old acquaintance from college.
I don’t really know how to conclude this. I hope this can be inspirational for some. Sorta like that post by Gardenfresh in the “I’m going to like myself today” thread. Life is too short to let it slip away. You are never alone…and you will always be loved when you love yourself.
^appreciate the rant. From experience, it's been years (and maybe it's because of who I am that I'm just not date-able) - the redefining of self after being broken up with can be beyond crippling.
Still feel crazy and it's been 3 years man. If it weren't for inforoo, the need to move out, work and such hadn't distract me.. I really don't know what I would have done those first 3 months. (certainly somethings I'm not terribly proud of) I still don't know what I'm doing today
Jimmyroo & Bandeto: hugs to you both, my friends. You guys have been put through the ringer emotionally, but you're gonna get through this. Lean on your friends for comfort. Let them nurse your heart while it's recovering. That's what I experienced with this amazing Inforoo family when I was in your situation a few years ago. It's not easy, but IT DOES GET BETTER! Focus on that. And remember: you have lots of people here who love & care about you.
The loss of someone that you have been with a long time does make you give pause and reflect on who you are and who you want to be. Whether the relationship was good or contentious, and no matter how it ends, there is an emptiness when that individual that defined much of your life is gone.
I live in Atlanta, which as most of you know was burned to the ground during the Civil War by Sherman in his March to the Sea. The phoenix bird has become a common theme around town for business and government - the mythological bird that rose from the ashes. Today I was riding through town and it struck me suddenly that such a cataclysmic event like a breakup or death of a partner is something akin to a devastating fire, and from the ashes a beautiful bird will arise and fly free. I share this symbolism with all of my Inforoo family who are experiencing ending relationships in the hope that it will inspire you like it did me.
It will get better, guys. We're all here for each other as we find our way.
Last Edit: Oct 9, 2012 21:39:54 GMT -5 by zen - Back to Top
I'm not gonna let it bother me tonight
southgajd said:
I don't think telling Kim to just dry up was really called for, just because she's gonna be a day late.
Never tell a lady how you really feel if you have your heart on your sleeve. Because it’s already bleeding out on the floor, that shizs just messy. No one wants that.
Never tell a lady how you really feel. Let her figure it out herself from how you act.
Never tell a lady how you really feel if you have your heart on your sleeve. Because it’s already bleeding out on the floor, that shizs just messy. No one wants that.
Never tell a lady how you really feel. Let her figure it out herself from how you act.
It may not be good advice, but I see where he's coming from..
holls, et al: Also all this seems to lead to me being every girls big mistake, and then they find the person that actually makes them happy. I'm pretty sure at this point - it's not going to get any better. I have to change what I want in my life somehow.
Post by hakunaMATTata on Oct 9, 2012 23:03:11 GMT -5
Few weeks ago I gave a friend who was feeling hopeless in the love department a pep talk. It basically consisted of good things happen to good people and happen when it's supposed to happen, it's better to not dwell and not force things that could be bad in the long run. He then asked how I was, what did I do with his friend and finally when I became so optimistic. It got me thinking and I specifically pinpointed it to when I became a regular here. Let the good vibes roll and things will work out!
As both a mom and someone who has a PhD from the school of hard knocks, let me offer this:
we can't find happiness with someone else until we find it with ourselves. We have to be comfortable in our own skin and love life on our own terms. We can't depend on someone else to meet some unmet need in us or to make up for someone else that did not display "the right kind of" love in the past - that's a certain recipe for eventual unhappiness.
I won't bore everyone with particulars of my situation, but as part of my "recovery", so to speak, I'm keeping a journal. Of course, I love to write, so that may not be for everyone. Sometimes the written word is more powerful for me than the spoken word in terms of focusing feelings. My point being...find your creative outlet, whatever that may be, and pour your angst into it. And continue to rely on us and know that you are, and will continue to be, getting stronger.
Bandeto and Jimmyroo...you guys are amazing young men from what I know of you. You are both talented and intelligent. I have full faith in the both of you.
My car loan is $405 a month. I paid $205 in late September, and was going to put another $200 in after my last paycheck (Friday the 5th) to cover the month's balance. The account is automatically charged on the 7th of the month.
It took out the full $405 payment, and not the $200 + interest. My bank account didn't have enough to cover the 405, so I got slapped with a $25 fee on top.
I'm broke. This sucks. I'm probably gonna have to sell tickets to shows, CDs, DVDs, things I can make expendable. This car is killing me, I might not be able to go to Roo ... or any festival before Moog 2013. Between the loan payment, insurance, taxes, and gas - it's eating on average 35-40% of my take home pay. Going to all these shows and fests the last two years certainly didn't help my case either.
If you want to see Ben Sollee or the Gaslight Anthem in Boston, STS9 in New York ... come PM me.
Mar 14 Sheepdogs/Fitz & The Tantrums/City & Colour (Austin)
Mar 15 Jim James (Austin)
Apr 26 Jim James (Boston)
May 4 Clutch & The Sword (Portland ME)
Jun 8 DMB (Hartford)
Jun 21 Jim James (Northampton MA)
Jul 27-28 Newport Folk
Oct 25-27 MOEMS
GRRRR... my grandmother is in the hospital AGAIN. This is the third time in 6 weeks. Last stay, she had a pacemaker put in. She's only been out of the hospital for 14 days, and tonight we took her back because a wire came loose in the pacemaker. The doctor said the wire may have pierced her heart
My family is worried and anxious which isn't making the situation better. I'd appreciate any good vibes you guys wanted to send our way.
Holy sh!t, I just got off the phone with one of my best friends since we were 12. Her sister, who is 28 and just had her second kid 5 months ago, has effing breast cancer.
Picked up my 5th prescription medicine earlier this evening for my back. I love hearing a doctor say they don't know what's going on & just prescribe, prescribe, prescribe. And damn insurance companies too. GRRRR
Thanks everyone. I feel completely helpless in both of these situations. My grandmother was supposed to get better once she had the pacemaker but she has actually gotten worse.
As for my friend's sister, I've known this friend for 18 years, since her sister was 10. I've watched this girl grow up, I went to her wedding and to her baby showers. I am heartbroken. She's going to have to have a double mastectomy and chemo treatment. while managing to raise a 3 year old boy and a 5 month old baby girl.
Thanks everyone. I feel completely helpless in both of these situations. My grandmother was supposed to get better once she had the pacemaker but she has actually gotten worse.
As for my friend's sister, I've known this friend for 18 years, since her sister was 10. I've watched this girl grow up, I went to her wedding and to her baby showers. I am heartbroken. She's going to have to have a double mastectomy and chemo treatment. while managing to raise a 3 year old boy and a 5 month old baby girl.
When she or you are ready PM me and we'll get some resources headed her way. Her situation is a lot like mine was my kids were just a little older (5 and 17 mos). There are some groups that are dedicated to working with younger women so let me know how I can help.
Inforoo is the only thing that has gotten me through more than a couple rough patches in my life. ((Hugs)) and positive thoughts for those who need them.
Thanks everyone. I feel completely helpless in both of these situations. My grandmother was supposed to get better once she had the pacemaker but she has actually gotten worse.
As for my friend's sister, I've known this friend for 18 years, since her sister was 10. I've watched this girl grow up, I went to her wedding and to her baby showers. I am heartbroken. She's going to have to have a double mastectomy and chemo treatment. while managing to raise a 3 year old boy and a 5 month old baby girl.
Dang JHo. That's 2 whammies in a day. Im so sorry your grandmother and your friend are dealing with these things. You be a light for them though, and I'll keep sending the good vibes your way for you to pass on to them. My mom had cancer and it was rough during that chemo time - your friend will need all the friends and family help she can get! So I pray you have strength and encouragement for her. <3333333333333
And damn insurance companies too. GRRRR
