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I caught a feeling last night for a girl in my running group. She's fast and whooped my ass. I like it.
Do something crazy, like take her to the Bahamas
I just met you and this is crazy, but here's my number. come to the bahamas maybe? I see that working with a stranger. I'll do it on Saturday and report back.
Post by A$AP Rosko on Mar 14, 2013 14:27:05 GMT -5
I've caught feelings for a girl who works next door. She's married. Another day in the life of the sensie panda.
(Actually I've had feelings for her for awhile and I kinda sense they've been somewhat reciprocated to varying degrees...but the whole being married thing is a little bit of a hurdle. She's kind of opened up to me lately about how she's frustrated with her husband's lack of motivation to do anything with his life, but she says she thinks she still loves him. Kind of a difficult play, advice is welcome.)
I've caught feelings for a girl who works next door. She's married. Another day in the life of the sensie panda.
(Actually I've had feelings for her for awhile and I kinda sense they've been somewhat reciprocated to varying degrees...but the whole being married thing is a little bit of a hurdle. She's kind of opened up to me lately about how she's frustrated with her husband's lack of motivation to do anything with his life, but she says she thinks she still loves him. Kind of a difficult play, advice is welcome.)
Post by chicojuarz on Mar 14, 2013 14:31:34 GMT -5
My advice, is that there's never a play while someone's still married and not separated. As someone who's marriage was riddled with infidelity nothing good will come of it for anyone involved. Best case you dont really get sucked in. Worst case you become a part of the mess and your personal life and possibly physical life get a hell of a disruption.
Bam! Even if she is frustrated, she is still married. If you were able to make things happen, I would say there is only a very very slim chance of anything long-term.
Post by crazykittensmile on Mar 14, 2013 14:34:39 GMT -5
Yeah, I wouldn't want anything to do with someone who would consider infidelity while staying in a marriage they are unhappy with. Not happy? Make it work or leave. If it's more "complicated" than that, you especially don't want to be any part of the drama that will follow.
Post by A$AP Rosko on Mar 14, 2013 14:36:26 GMT -5
I'm not talking about making a physical move while she's still married. I just don't know how to handle it in the meantime while she's deciding what to do with her marriage. Do I come forth about my feelings or do I just wait until it plays itself out first? Do I just try to hang out with/talk to her more? I would like to point out that a month before my three-year relationship ended last year, my ex found the dude that she's with now, and now she's pregnant with that dude's kid and engaged to him. So I feel like the universe owes me something in that regard haha.
And crazykittensmile I always hate your advice because you're always so right but it always ends in FOREVER ALONE haha.
Post by A$AP Rosko on Mar 14, 2013 14:38:06 GMT -5
Also FWIW, while this girl is flirty, I've never gotten any indication that she's been unfaithful or ever considered infidelity. In fact, I've gotten many indications of how opposed she is to infidelity. Again, I would not consider making a move on a married woman.
Post by chicojuarz on Mar 14, 2013 14:38:26 GMT -5
Nope. Dont say anything and "plays itself out" is likely to be months if not years. Let me ask you this, do you want her to make her own decision on her marriage or do you want to be a player in a marriage that fails?
I'm not talking about making a physical move while she's still married. I just don't know how to handle it in the meantime while she's deciding what to do with her marriage. Do I come forth about my feelings or do I just wait until it plays itself out first? Do I just try to hang out with/talk to her more? I would like to point out that a month before my three-year relationship ended last year, my ex found the dude that she's with now, and now she's pregnant with that dude's kid and engaged to him. So I feel like the universe owes me something in that regard haha.
And crazykittensmile I always hate your advice because you're always so right but it always ends in FOREVER ALONE haha.
What good could come from you telling her your feelings? Evaluate your motivation.
And I don't think breaking up someone else's relationship will right any wrongs previously done to you.
I'm not talking about making a physical move while she's still married. I just don't know how to handle it in the meantime while she's deciding what to do with her marriage. Do I come forth about my feelings or do I just wait until it plays itself out first? Do I just try to hang out with/talk to her more? I would like to point out that a month before my three-year relationship ended last year, my ex found the dude that she's with now, and now she's pregnant with that dude's kid and engaged to him. So I feel like the universe owes me something in that regard haha.
And crazykittensmile I always hate your advice because you're always so right but it always ends in FOREVER ALONE haha.
FOREVER ALONE > Crazy, jealous husband showing up at your house to shoot you in the face
I would like to point out that a month before my three-year relationship ended last year, my ex found the dude that she's with now, and now she's pregnant with that dude's kid and engaged to him. So I feel like the universe owes me something in that regard haha.
Post by A$AP Rosko on Mar 14, 2013 14:41:36 GMT -5
I don't want to be a factor in a failing marriage. I guess I'm just frustrated because a similar situation was the straw that broke the camel's back in my past relationship (dude just hung around my ex and had deep talks with her until she fell for him and realized that we weren't in love, which we weren't).
I get what you guys are saying, you guys are right. Sigh. FOREVER ALONE.
I'm not talking about making a physical move while she's still married. I just don't know how to handle it in the meantime while she's deciding what to do with her marriage. Do I come forth about my feelings or do I just wait until it plays itself out first? Do I just try to hang out with/talk to her more? I would like to point out that a month before my three-year relationship ended last year, my ex found the dude that she's with now, and now she's pregnant with that dude's kid and engaged to him. So I feel like the universe owes me something in that regard haha.
And crazykittensmile I always hate your advice because you're always so right but it always ends in FOREVER ALONE haha.
FOREVER ALONE > Crazy, jealous husband showing up at your house to shoot you in the face
FOREVER ALONE also > being wrought with guilt and constantly questioning the fidelity of your newly divorced love interest
I would like to point out that a month before my three-year relationship ended last year, my ex found the dude that she's with now, and now she's pregnant with that dude's kid and engaged to him. So I feel like the universe owes me something in that regard haha.
That's a nice punch in the d*ck right there.
You're telling me. Our breakup was for the best because I know now that deep down I didn't love her. Still, that hurts.
I don't want to be a factor in a failing marriage. I guess I'm just frustrated because a similar situation was the straw that broke the camel's back in my past relationship (dude just hung around my ex and had deep talks with her until she fell for him and realized that we weren't in love, which we weren't).
I get what you guys are saying, you guys are right. Sigh. FOREVER ALONE.
You're just alone right now, little buddy. There's a lady out there for you. Look at tom and me. Both of us are married. I'm an assh*le and he's a comic book nerd.
I don't want to be a factor in a failing marriage. I guess I'm just frustrated because a similar situation was the straw that broke the camel's back in my past relationship (dude just hung around my ex and had deep talks with her until she fell for him and realized that we weren't in love, which we weren't).
I get what you guys are saying, you guys are right. Sigh. FOREVER ALONE.
So why would you consider doing the same thing to another relationship? You confuse me, sensie panda.
And you will not be FOREVER ALONE. You haven't even been single a year! Relax and enjoy yourself.
I'm not talking about making a physical move while she's still married. I just don't know how to handle it in the meantime while she's deciding what to do with her marriage. Do I come forth about my feelings or do I just wait until it plays itself out first? Do I just try to hang out with/talk to her more? I would like to point out that a month before my three-year relationship ended last year, my ex found the dude that she's with now, and now she's pregnant with that dude's kid and engaged to him. So I feel like the universe owes me something in that regard haha.
And crazykittensmile I always hate your advice because you're always so right but it always ends in FOREVER ALONE haha.
What good could come from you telling her your feelings? Evaluate your motivation.
And I don't think breaking up someone else's relationship will right any wrongs previously done to you.
I'm not saying it would right wrongs, I'm just saying that it could still turn into a fruitful relationship as long as I didn't make any physical move before she split with her husband. I get it though, I get it, you guys are right.
I don't want to be a factor in a failing marriage. I guess I'm just frustrated because a similar situation was the straw that broke the camel's back in my past relationship (dude just hung around my ex and had deep talks with her until she fell for him and realized that we weren't in love, which we weren't).
I get what you guys are saying, you guys are right. Sigh. FOREVER ALONE.
You're just alone right now, little buddy. There's a lady out there for you. Look at tom and me. Both of us are married. I'm an assh*le and he's a comic book nerd.
So the lesson here is to become a comic book loving A hole and the ladies will come a running.
You're just alone right now, little buddy. There's a lady out there for you. Look at tom and me. Both of us are married. I'm an assh*le and he's a comic book nerd.
So the lesson here is to become a comic book loving A hole and the ladies will come a running.
I don't want to be a factor in a failing marriage. I guess I'm just frustrated because a similar situation was the straw that broke the camel's back in my past relationship (dude just hung around my ex and had deep talks with her until she fell for him and realized that we weren't in love, which we weren't).
I get what you guys are saying, you guys are right. Sigh. FOREVER ALONE.
So why would you consider doing the same thing to another relationship? You confuse me, sensie panda.
And you will not be FOREVER ALONE. You haven't even been single a year! Relax and enjoy yourself.
It's not that I want to do the same thing to another guy/another relationship. It's that I've experienced firsthand how it could still be the start of a fruitful relationship if it was played right. You guys have already talked me out of it, I just wanted to clarify that I'm not some vindictive, eye-for-an-eye scumbag.